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Posts: 237 Join Date: Jan 2003 Location: New York, USA Posts: 237 |  Live life for tomorrow, not for today.
These three statements are become a big debate for me..do share your views on these.
1) Work is the most important element of life.
2) Live life for today, not for tomorrow.
3) Children bring their own fate, we don't need to do anything for them.
1) Work once again as discussed in this forum before whether it is more important than any other element of our life is once again a debate for me. Today, I have observed some things that prove this so wrong. We work to earn money thats what it comes down to. Now, we also make relationships at work. But the moment we are gone from that place or say your gone from this world, how many people will really remember you. There are some people who care about their work relationships more than their own personal relationships. They also make work their most important identity. It is important I don't deny that making good relationships at work but don't make them so personal that you start compromising on your personal relationships and family. Distinguishing them from the people who really care about you is important because they are the one's you are going to fall back on not the people at your work.
Secondly, it is futile if your working like a dog and not making anything out of it for your own people. Now linking this to the 2) debatable issue Live life for today, not for tomorrow. I think this is the most selfish thing to say. I know quite a few people in my life that hate this statement. This statement is so coward it tells you that you are unable to provide for a life in the future your own or others around you. I had an awakening last night just thinking about this statement. It is a curse for my life to have someone tell me this all the time. In life there is nothing as bad luck, there are possiblities and impossiblities, its up to us to make the take advantage of this possibilities and seek to make the impossible - possible. Being brought up in a family where fighting the impossible has been our aim and breaking through all elements in making things work for us and for our benefactors has been an integral part of my growth. I wanted to write my insight about a story of a great man in my life. No man in my life ever will match to what he did for me. He loved me unconditionally. He died for me, no one can do that for me, can they? He lived for tomorrow, not for today.
I learnt something that my dad taught me only by dying. My dad was diagnoised with an illness about four years ago and he passed away in march 07. Exactly four years ago when he alone found out about his illness, I left my home to seek my own life causing him additional pain. His medication would not be covered by any insurance and would cost him $1500-$2000 a month just to survive another few years. He didn't go in for any treatment. He knew he had very less time to live. I was away from my family for three years not knowing anything about him being sick. Nobody knew about it except him. He came to visit me twice and when I hugged him I felt something was wrong with him but didn't think much.
He didn't take treatment. He instead was fighting the impossible that is his death and he fought it by believing that I have to save as much as possible till my last breath for my wife and my daughters. He worked every overtime shift and didn't take treatment so that those $2000 do not go out from his hands for himself. He looked into his tomorrow not for his own life but for the lives he had lived with for 25 years that to him was his tomorrow, his future. He sent me money every year on birthdays and festivals just feeling that I might be short and might need it. He did everything paid of bills and architectured a plan for his future in which he saw my mom, me and my sister. He didn't live for today and cowardly said that my daughters have their own fate. He made our fate and I haven't seen all of it yet but he is revealing it to me step by step. Today he lives in mom reminding her of his zeal for life that nothing is impossible, that he is still with her supporting her emotionally and financially. If it were not a man like him, who looked into what tomorrow holds for his future which are his children, he would have simply been selfish and said I am ill, I need medication, I fear death and I don't give a damn about what my family will do once I am gone. Just to give an example of what kind of person he was - A day before he passed away. He paid all his bills over phone holding that oldstyle hospital phone with numerous tubes passing through his veins so that my mom wouldn't have to worry about it for at aleast a month. That was the stature of this noble soul - my dad. I am so passionate about this because I am exactly like him and I can't stand anyone telling or asking me to believe in a cowardly phrase
"Live life for today, not for tomorrow."
I learnt that he had financed my childhood friends dental expenses which just ended last year. He lives in his tomorrow - today in her beautiful smile. He gave jobs to many - he lives in his tomorrow - today in their bread and butter. He funded my mom's widowed friend's daughter's education and marriage - he lives in her success today as a manager for a pharmaceutical company and a happy marriage. He touched so many lives because he knew that money is important, work is important only when it can be disposed for the right causes and he could do all of it only because he knew to save money for the future. To provide for not only his own family but numerous people who live far far away from him. He definitely proved that he still lives in his tomorrow. I only wish he had lived enough for his grandchildren to know him for that I have to relive his life just like he was so that my children could feel and know what I feel today.
3) Children bring their own fate, we don't need to do anything for them.
Yes ok. they do so it is a simple way to get out of being responsible to bring a life into this world ...bullshit. How can you not aspire to provide the best and better than what you got in life for your children. Gosh I was never raised like this. My father would never take a single penny from even if I willing gave him the money. I hate it when parents wait for their children to earn and provide to fullfill their desires and dreams. How can't your dreams not cease even when your old? Isn't it your responsibility to provide for your kids till your last breath.... Don't they have the right to seek their dreams and live their lives. I couldn't believe there are parents like this too. I don't think this phrase either fits in my psychic or the way I was raised. I think those parents are either illiterate or unsatiably selfish. I seek to provide for myself first so that I never give myself an opportunity to ask from my children till I have two hands and two feet. And seek to provide the best I can to launch my children into this world where they can seek their own desires and fullfill them. That was my parent's wished for me and I will carry that forward. Whether I have to do it alone or with support I will never let them down. I would want to make their fate as much in my hands I can. I fear less about any upheaval in my future because of what my father laid for my future. He gave his life and that is the greatest reminder of what he did for his children.
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Last edited by lovina : 17-04-2008 at 07:27 PM.
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I am sorry resilience I still disagree with your distinction and cohesion of work relationships and personal relationships. Important is really a very important word and then when we attach more than and most to this noun it even becomes important. So I would be very careful in attaching this word to the right entity ...in this case relationships. 
. It is ok I can live with that.
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